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Bullying (Courtesy of Wikipedia):
Bullying is a form of abuse. It involves repeated acts over time attempting to create or enforce one person’s (or group’s) power over another person (or group) , thus an “imbalance of power”. The “imbalance of power” may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target. Bullying types of behavior are often rooted in a would-be bully’s inability to empathize with those whom he or she would target.
Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as psychological manipulation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. Although the UK currently has no legal definition of bullying, some US states have laws against it.
Bullying ranges from simple one on one bullying to more complex bullying in which the bully may have one or more ‘lieutenants’ who may seem to be willing to assist the primary bully in his bullying activities. Bullying in school and the workplace is also referred to as peer abuse. Robert W. Fuller has analyzed bullying in the context of rankism.
Bullying can occur in any context in which human beings interact with each other. This includes school, church, family, the workplace, home and neighborhoods. It is even a common push factor inmigration. Bullying can exist between social groups, social classes and even between countries (see Jingoism). In fact on an international scale, perceived or real imbalances of power between nations, in both economic systems and in treaty systems, are often cited as some of the primary causes of both World War I and World War II. Put simply, historically and from this perspective, certain international ‘bullying’ between nations is seen as having resulted in at least two very major and costly international wars.
Bullying behavior may include name calling, verbal or written abuse, exclusion from activities, exclusion from social situations, physical abuse, or coercion. Bullies may behave this way to be perceived as popular or tough or to get attention. They may bully out of jealousy or be acting out because they themselves are bullied.
USA National Center for Education Statistics suggests that bullying can be classified into two categories: Direct bullying, and indirect bullying which is also known as social aggression.
Ross states that direct bullying involves a great deal of physical aggression such as shoving and poking, throwing things, slapping, choking, punching and kicking, beating, stabbing, pulling hair, scratching, biting, scraping and pinching.
He also suggests that social aggression or indirect bullying is characterized by threatening the victim into social isolation. This isolation is achieved through a wide variety of techniques, including spreading gossip, refusing to socialize with the victim, bullying other people who wish to socialize with the victim, and criticizing the victim’s manner of dress and other socially-significant markers (including the victim’s race, religion, disability, etc.). Ross outlines other forms of indirect bullying which are more subtle and more likely to be verbal, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/false gossip, lies, rumors/false rumors, staring, giggling, laughing at the victim, saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking. The children’s charity Act Against Bullying was set up in 2003 to help children who were victims of this type of bullying by researching and publishing coping skills.
How to Defend Yourself When Attacked
(Courtesy of Ehow.com)
- Allow your bully to approach: do not run away, do not walk toward her. Steel yourself by saying to yourself, “I will not back down and I will not give in to taunting.” It is natural to be afraid, the fighter without fear does not exist-and that goes for your bully, too.
- Meet your bully’s gaze with a stone face, looking directly into his eyes. Concentrate on your body position and casually make sure you are in a firm, steady stance. Be ready to move at an instant’s notice.
- Do not throw the first punch! Not only does starting a fight mean you’ve allowed the bully to manipulate you, it means you are in the wrong. Once you are in danger you may strike, and do so with everything you have.
- Guard yourself! A bully is generally not a good fighter, having had little or no practice against someone who will fight back. Do not shrink back and act afraid, at the very moment you are forced to retreat your bully is afraid of you. Instead, stand low and guard your midsection and face with your forearms. Use your forearms to push any attacks out of the way, fast and hard!
- Strike back. Use your fists and elbows to strike at vulnerable parts of the body as they become unguarded. The nose, eyes, solar plexus and lower stomach are great places to hit. Your goal is not to injure the bully, just to let them know you’re not an easy target.
- Continue steps 4 and 5 until your bully is either unwilling or unable to continue aggression. Remember: first guard, then strike.
- Once the bully has had enough, make sure they are not seriously hurt. Call an ambulance if necessary, offer to help them. They will probably not appreciate this, but your goal should never be to hurt or humiliate, only to protect yourself. Assess your physical condition-if you are hurt, get treated
- Call the authorities and make sure you have witnesses that you were attacked. Once everyone knows you will fight back and not let them get away with bullying you being picked on should be a thing of the past.
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